Parenting Tips That Work: How a Simple Back Scratch Built Stronger Bonds

Parenting is full of both challenges and rewards. As a mom of three kids (now teens and young adults), I’ve discovered that sometimes the simplest parenting tips make the biggest difference. One unexpected tool that helped me bond with my children, calm their busy minds, and even make learning easier was—believe it or not—a simple back scratch.

ADHD Parenting and Finding Creative Solutions

When my oldest was just two years old, he was incredibly smart and curious—but his ADHD made sitting still nearly impossible. I wanted to help him learn letters and numbers, but after just a few minutes, he was done. One day, after asking God for wisdom, I tried something unusual: a gentle back scratch.

To my surprise, it worked! The soothing touch helped calm his hyperactive brain just enough for him to focus. With a mix of back scratches and short movement breaks (like racing to the front door), learning time became less stressful and more enjoyable.

Why Physical Touch Matters in Parenting

I grew up in a home where physical touch wasn’t common, so this new habit felt strange at first. But I quickly learned that physical touch is a powerful parenting tool. Science shows that healthy touch can reduce stress, build trust, and strengthen emotional connection. For my kids, the back scratch became not just a calming trick, but a bonding ritual.

At church, it kept them still and engaged without constant trips outside. At home, it became a nightly tradition—an easy way to check in, calm down, and share love after a busy day. Even now, my youngest still gives me the “back scratch, please” signal during sermons, and my teens still ask for scratches at night.

Parenting Teens: Staying Connected in Simple Ways

Many parents worry about the distance that grows as kids get older. I’ve felt that too. But this small tradition of physical touch has kept us close, opening doors for conversations and emotional connection. It’s proof that parenting teenagers doesn’t always require big gestures—sometimes, it’s the small, consistent things that matter most.

A Parenting Tip You Can Try Tonight

If you’re looking for simple ways to connect with your kids—whether they’re toddlers, teens, or somewhere in between—consider adding physical touch, like a gentle back scratch, into your daily routine. It may feel awkward at first, but the payoff is worth it. This one simple parenting tip has strengthened our family bond, created cherished memories, and reminded my kids that no matter how hectic life gets, I’m always here for them.

So, will you try the back scratch bandwagon? The benefits of physical touch in parenting are powerful—and who knows, your kids may even pass this tradition on to their own children someday.